Rabbi Menachem Creditor met Neshama Carlebach 10 years ago when the popular Jewish singer headlined a concert at Creditor’s synagogue, Congregation Netivot Shalom in Berkeley, California. They struck up a friendship, which eventually turned into love and, now, an engagement.
The couple will wed next summer at a ceremony in New York.
By then Creditor, 41, will have completed his tenure at Netivot Shalom and moved to New York, where Carlebach, 43, lives with her two sons.
“Neshama and I stayed in touch over the years,” said Creditor, who has three children from his first marriage. “About a year ago, our conversations somehow shifted. We started seeing each other in a new way. A coalescing of all the sharing we’ve done over the years turned into a beautiful romance. Close friends became best friends.”
Carlebach is a successful singer-songwriter who has recorded multiple albums and toured North America, Europe and Israel. She is a specialist at performing the niggunim, or traditional melodies, of her composer father, the late Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach.
Creditor, a social justice activist who was arrested with other rabbis protesting at Trump Tower in New York in February, chairs the group Rabbis Against Gun Violence.
Though he, too, sings and writes music, he says he will not likely join forces with Carlebach onstage or in the studio.
“We enjoy witnessing the other shine,” Creditor said. “We have visions for our Judaism and beyond that are strikingly similar, so I imagine we’ll find ways to collaborate. For now, the plan is to create a beautiful family together.”